She tries her best to cover up the gradually spreading bruise on her face. She makes a mental note to go with Mac powder next time ’cause her mary kay isn’t thick enough for this fast becoming norm in her life. She has no idea what set him off this time. Come to think of it, she has no idea what set him off the last time. She can’t leave ’cause she swore she wasn’t gonna be a divorced woman but wouldn’t the sensible thing be to leave before she ended up dying by his hands?? God forbid the last thing she saw be his face. That would indeed be life having his last laugh at her expense………
The abused woman story is becoming quite a norm these days. We now have close friends telling us their personal stories instead of reading it off a magazine or some random self help book. It’s now a huge reality we can’t close our eyes to anymore. I once asked my friends what they would do if they were in such a situation and they all said they would leave the dude immediately. I laughed at this answer ’cause one of them was in a relationship that could be called abusive and she couldn’t end it ’cause she felt she had put too much into the relationship to just back out. They hadn’t even thought of the question. All of them were of the opinion there was absolutely nothing to think about. At this point i would like to say that i think that answer is quite naive. Life is not so simple and the women going through different forms of abuse are not all cowards or stupid or don’t like their lives. Infact quite the opposite in my opinion. I think they are incredibly courageous. I sometimes put my legs in their shoes and i must say i can’t take a single step.
There is a lot to think about when you have a family. At that point, dropping everything and backing out is not an automatic response. You’ve got to consider your kids and your life at the same time. Someone i regard as a sister once told me she wished her parents had never split up ’cause at the end of the day, it was they the kids that suffered. She now has a terrible complex towards guys. I also have a friend that really has no problem with his parents splitting up. He enjoys not having to spend all his time in one place. He is the only friend of mine from a seperated home that thinks that way though so i believe it’s safe to call him special lol(if you’re reading this hun you know i’ve got mad love for you). moving on……….granted some women are quite timid or should i say “backboneless” when it comes to the issue of abuse ’cause they are solely dependent on the man and feel life as they know it(with the abuse) is by far better than the life they would have on their own. While these women are completely entitled to their choices, they sadly however do not fall under my courageous “banner”.
The courageous women in my opinion are those that stay and endure everything for a completely selfless reason. It could be ’cause of their kids or religion or even the powerful tool called love and it is for them i say a prayer for occasionally. It must not be easy at all. I know if i was ever in their shoe, i would pack my baggage with my children and FLEE. Mind you that answer has been given after years of careful debate on the topic. I cannot in any way stand abuse and i know even if i’m jobless at the time, my mum would welcome my children joyfully(yes that’s how much i’ve thought about it). That being said, every situation is not the same and if you have to pass judgement, take a moment to go a block in her shoes before you say anything. Life isn’t black and white at all.