I was walking down the road the other day when a strange guy ran past me. My initial instinct was to run in the same direction as the guy seeing as i had no idea what was in front or why the man appeared to be in such a hurry but then i said to myself “Nono you will look stupid if you just start running after this guy o and at the end of the day he is just in a hurry. Nothing alarming” so i reduced my pace and kept going forward. Just then i spotted the bus turning in from the highway. Then it hit me. He was trying to get to the bus stop before the bus. I immediately had a grin on my face and stopped to see if he would make it. He didn’t. Timing huh??
They say timing is everything. Well since that day i’ve been thinking about that word timing. A friend of mine just had a close encounter with timing too and i was there telling her timing was everything and maybe in a different time/place, the outcome would have been different. Now i see the error in my/our ways. Who are we to know what would have/wouldn’t have happened had we stopped for a few seconds to tie our shoelaces instead of moving on and getting hit by the bus; had we hurried out of the house when we wanted to instead of staying to apply some more lipstick which led to us being inside when the house collapsed. Well i think the bus would have also stopped for a few seconds to pick up somebody and we would have rushed out of the house only to realise we forgot something which would have led to us going back into the house. I don’t think there is a scenario you could give me on timing for which i wouldn’t have a counter scenario. Funny thing is since we obviously aren’t God we can only really be sure of the known. The present. Who is to say your “favourable” scenario wouldn’t have led you to a worse off outcome. So it all comes back to what DID happen and how we can to the best of our abilities, handle what DID happen.
What will be will be. We can’t beat fate no matter how hard we try. We can only take comfort in the unknown which to me is futile anyways. If only i had brought her along. If only i had read the last chapter. If only i had met him first. If only we had used a condom. If only, If only, If only. Yea, yea…..well you didn’t. Find the positive in that and move on.